One of the things men find most difficult when trying to seek out new romantic partners – or to find one in the first place – is in attempting to gauge the level of interest that women might be showing towards them.
“Is She Interested in Me? How Can I Tell?”
There are a few particularly common instances of initial body language that can help to assess whether or not a woman is physically or intellectually attracted to you in a romantic sense.
- Scanning: Both sexes do this quite prominent, but generally women are a bit more discreet about it! Scanning or “checking-out” someone essentially means to linger a bit longer than is usual on a subject with your gaze. If a woman gives you the once over, it may be simply curiousity. The twice over, or a lingering gaze accompanied by a smile or a nervous glance away, can be a sign of something more.
- Initiation: If she initiates conversation with you, you're already sitting pretty. While small talk is often simply small talk, take note if she makes a point to look you in the eye and meet your gaze or if she touches you on the hand, arm, or leg while you're having a conversation. Both of these are generally positive signs, though be wary not to misconstrue friendliness for romantic interest.
- Enthusiasm: Laughter is a very positive sign of romantic attraction, although if giggles are absent that's not to say that you're striking out. Genuine laughter generally indicates that you share a sense of humour, a point of view, or have shared interests and knowledge bases – the flowerbed of any budding romance.
What Can I Do to Make a Girl or Woman Like Me? The Rules of Attraction for Men
There's no short and simple way to force romantic attraction, it simple waxes and wanes in it's own peculiar fashion. However, it should also be remembered that while there's no such thing as an instant love potion to make women fall in love with you, there are a few very basic and very simple things you can keep on top of to increase your odds of finding Cupid's arrow.
- Be nicely dressed: This doesn't mean that you necessarily have to wear a tuxedo to the hockey rink, but what it does entail is that you always dress in a fashion that is flattering both to the context as well as to your own shape and size. If you're going to the martini bar or the nightclub it couldn't hurt to toss on a nice blazer and jeans or a quality leather jacket. Part of being well dressed is being well-groomed, too, so always keep your hair in good shape and keep your facial hair neat and tidy or fully shaved.
- Display your manners: A rude joke is fine with the right kind of company – and some girls do love a bad boy – but it's always best to lead with good manners. Believe it or not, many women appreciate a polite man who can walk the line between exhibiting good manners and being a total pushover.
- Listen, then talk: Don't try to overpower the conversation with talk about yourself. Show some genuine interest in the lives of those that you want to get to know better and you'll find that reciprocation is normally the reward. While you shouldn't try to deflect questions about your own interests and past accomplishments, you should try to answer them while steering the conversation back into mutual waters.
Keeping these few items squarely in mind when thinking of hitting the dating scene will save you a great deal of miscommunication and heartbreak, though by no means are the avoidance of such guaranteed. After all, love – like rock and roll – is a vicious game.
Nicholas Morine - Nicholas Morine Bachelor of Arts, English Language & Literature Master of Philosophy, Humanities (Candidate) Memorial University ...
